“I started to write this book in my thirties and couldn’t put it together,” writes Van Rite. “I was too much about me in those days, and as I say in the book, I was unable to access my feelings. I had an epiphany moment in an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting when I saw in my imagination a little airplane pulling a banner that said Surrender. I had never surrendered entirely, even to God, and this after having been a United Methodist minister for ten years.
“I was frightened at the prospect of losing myself, and I remembered how I had fought that very…